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Healing Your Relationship With Money Commitment Three: I
am committed to my own complete development as a financially independent
individual. What Stands Between You and Financial Independence? Healing
our relationships with money means being open and receptive to changing the way
we think and feel about money. It is our thoughts and feelings about situations
that involve money which keep us from healing our relationships with money, not
the situations themselves. Being
committed to our own complete development as financially independent individuals
means being willing to shine a light into the dark places and look at what lurks
there without running away. And it means forming a game plan of specific actions
that we can each take to claim our independence. You
may find that it's helpful to take a few deep breaths, or take a friend or
mentor with you as you explore the really scary parts of your money
relationship. I assure you, however, that while every dark crevice you explore
contains a scary shadow, more often than not the shadow is a reflection of a
gift for you. I
once knew a man who felt trapped in his job. He was an incredibly brilliant man
and knew his industry inside and out, but he wasn't a savvy "corporate
player." As a result For
a long time, I sensed his depression and gradually realized that he was
depressed because he firmly believed he was financially dependent on his boss
and his job. He had given away his power, his very spirit. In the jail he'd
created in his mind, his choices were to leave and give up many of the material
comforts and benefits of his six figure income or stay and face the continual
erosion of his soul. If
you only see two solutions to a problem you're not looking hard enough. Eventually,
my friend found a third solution. He came to terms with his dilemma by
consciously choosing to recreate his job. He started coming to work on off
hours, so his Whether
he knew it or not, he came to this shift in thinking and feeling by consciously
committing to his own complete development as a financially independent
individual. As long as we hold onto the belief that the people in our past (or
our present) are to blame for our current financial situation, we are allowing
these people -- not ourselves -- to be in charge of our spirit. Likewise, as
long as we hold onto the belief that we are to be thanked for the current or
past financial success of another, we are assuming a place of superiority over
that person's spirit. Both are equally harmful to our own complete development
as financially independent people. You
need to be ready and willing to give up these limiting thoughts and feelings.
What are you willing to give up in order to heal your relationship with money?
My friend with What
do you need to let go of as the first step toward committing to your complete
development as a financially independent individual? It could be releasing old
thought patterns, old spending patterns, or the persona of financial victimhood.
You
must ask yourself, what are you willing to give up for your financial security?
Our thoughts, actions and words must align with the universal flow of
prosperity. If you feel used, taken advantage of, like a sellout, or like you're
prostituting yourself, take these as signals that something is out of alignment
in your financial independence. Look
at every financial situation over the next two weeks as an opportunity to view
the alignment of your financial independence, much as you would observe the pull
of your car to the right and left, which would indicate that your car is somehow
out of alignment. These close observations will give you some basic information
that is key to committing to the complete development of your financial
independence. If
we are providing financial support to another, we must be rigorously honest in
our assessment of what truly motivates us to be of service to others. Are we
acting from a place of unconditional love or for selfish reasons? Do we want to
impress others? Are we seeking recognition or approval from others? Do we wish
to set ourselves above others? Are
you more comfortable receiving assistance than offering it? Do you give of your
time, treasure or talents or offer assistance grudgingly, with resentment, with
strings attached? Don't berate yourself if you do, for you are not alone. On
some level almost all of us act from these fear-based places in our psyches.
It's time to stop denying who you are and start delighting in who you are. Are
you afraid that if you aren't financial dependent on someone else or if someone
isn't financially dependent on you that you will be alone? Your fear of
"aloneness" keeps you in debt, and keeps you from fully committing to
becoming financially independent. Ask
yourself: If I am financially independent, and allow others around me to be
financially independent, what will happen to the people in my life I am
currently financially dependent upon or who I keep dependent on me? This could
be a spouse, a family member, it could even be your employer. Once you've
honestly answered this question, ask yourself, If I am no longer financially
dependent on someone else, and no one else is financially dependent on me, then
what will happen to me? What will change in my life? Look
at the changes you are afraid of, as well as the changes you desire. How can you
minimize your fears and embrace your desires? Share what you learn about
yourself and we'll continue this adventure in the next Commitment! ******* Paula
Langguth Ryan is a contemporary prosperity advisor, Home Healing Relationship One/Two Four Five Six Seven
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